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What We Have Seen and Heard April 23, 2009

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John 3: 31-36

“The one who comes from above testifies to what they have seen and heard.”

Sometimes that’s just a bit different from prevailing religious thought.  It was for Jesus.  That’s why he was killed.

What have you seen and heard?  What is the truth of your spiritual journey in life?  How do you give witness to that?  Has it gotten you in trouble with prevailing religious thought?

I think of the many people who challenge me by giving witness to goodness, kindness, self giving, sacrificial love – by never saying a word.  They simply live it.  They preach by the way they live.  I think this is the most authentic witness that we can give to “what we have seen and heard.”  When someone is able to see that I am able to grab onto faith in the midst of crisis, when someone sees that I am concerned for others, when someone is fed and calmed by my presence – I am a witness to what I have seen and heard, I am a witness to what I have read, digested, what I have prayed and meditated.

What message is my life speaking today?

What Gives You Peace? Do It! November 20, 2008

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“If only you had known the path to peace this day; but you have completely lost it from your view.” (See Luke 19: 41-44)

What gives you peace? What are the practices that keep you in a peaceful place? What are those things that you do, even when you don’t want to, but you know that if you do them, you will be in a better space?

How easy it is to loose the path to peace, to drop those actions and activities that keep us focused and centered. It could be skimping on our time for meditation, or exercise, suddenly getting into a pattern of not eating right, watching too much TV and doing too little reading, spending more time on the internet than interacting with people.

I cannot tell you how often I have heard someone in a 12 Step Meeting say that they did not want to come today, that they had to drag themselves there – but they felt so good that they had!

Sometimes we don’t FEEL like doing the things that keep us in a good, peaceful place and we have to force ourselves to do them. Making this effort is well worth it, for in the long run, getting off our butts and doing something that we know will make us feel better is a good investment of our time.

The Secret Calm – Part II October 4, 2008

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Someone commented yesterday how wonderful it would be to be able to calm the mind, to be completely free of thought or worry.

Lest anyone think that that is the case with me, let me assure you it is not! I don’t think it is true of anyone. If the expectation is that with our spiritual practice we will be completely free of thought of worry, we will be disappointed. However, if we practice calming the mind, meditation, etc we will have tools at our disposal which will help us calm the mind and go to a place of greater peace and centeredness. Is it complete calm and peace? No. But our practice gives us a door, an opening into a deeper dimension of stillness, beyond the chaos of mind or life situations. And this can lead us to a place of greater peace. And when the storm comes, it’s best to have some tools at our disposal! In other words, we don’t have to stand completely powerless in the face of storms in our lives. Our spiritual practice, 12 Step work, therapy, religious faith – all of these are tools that we can pick up at a moment’s notice and use to deal more effectively with life’s issues.

The important thing is that we maintain some sort of spiritual practice CONSISTENTLY. Then, when we need it, it will be more of an ingrained habit, to which we will easily turn. Do these tools have immediate results in calming me? Sometimes yes. But most often, it is a process where calm and focus gradually takes hold. It’s like having a secure anchor to grab on to, or firm ground on which to stand. The storm may be raging around us or within us, but these practices provide a point of grounding in the midst of the storm. Do they immediately take the storm away? Not usually. But the grounding itself gives cause for hope and gradually opens a door to greater peace and clarity.

Today is the feast of a famous saint whose prayer of peace attributed to him is prayed by Christians and non-Christians alike. Francis of Assisi was a man who experienced many storms in his life and in the world around him. Yet he continually drew himself and his followers back to a quiet place within – as well as BEING the peace that he wanted to experience. “Make ME an instrument of your peace . . .” In so doing, we gain the peace that we impart to others.

The Secret Calm October 3, 2008

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There is a still place within all of us to which we can retreat, no matter what is going on around us or within us.  Like the ocean, that on the surface can be tossed about violently in a storm, if we go deeper the waters become calm and still.

I believe this is what Viktor Frankl speaks of, in the midst of his experience in a Nazi concentration camp.  This is what Eckhart Tolle speaks of when he describes the place of Being beyond the incessant chatter of the ego mind.

The good news is, we all can go to this still place within.  We need not stay on the surface waters of any storm in our lives, but we have a key, a secret place to which we can retreat!

Last night I was awakened suddenly and my mind immediately began to whirl with various concerns, both personal, national and global.  I lay, tossing and turning for about an hour.  Then I remembered this still place within; and as I visualized myself going deeper, to the place of Being beyond the chatter of the mind, I slowly fell off to sleep again.

We have the key.  We know the secret.  We just need to become conscious of it and use it!

Why Are We Afraid of It? – Silence II August 6, 2008

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I sense that there is something, an energy, that wants to keep us away from silence.  Part of it stems from the lull of consumerism.  We are bombarded with messages that say we need this or that to make us happy.  Perhaps if we entered the silence we would find that we don’t need all of those things we think we need, that in fact, we need very little.  Are we are held in a state of frenzy to keep the economic machine going?  Or perhaps, as Eckhart Tolle says, if we sense an incompleteness within and find ourselves reaching out for this or that thing or situation we are ego driven, in the mind and simply not present to Life. (See The Power of Now:  A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment).  If we don’t become aware of this we then find ourselves in a perpetual state of reaching for something or someone outside of ourselves to complete us or make us happy.

There is also something within us that wants to hold us from the silence.  We are so conditioned to think that if we just worked more, tried harder, pushed ourselves further, that we would somehow arrive in life – whatever and wherever that place is.  And yes, we need to work to bring ideas into reality, no question.  But we get to a point where we are  conditioned to think that silence, doing no – thing, is a waste of precious time.  We have so much to do and simply don’t have the time for silence.  When in reality, can we afford not to enter into the silence??  Look at our frenzied lives.  Look at our world.  Look at our relationships.  Would they not all benefit from taking some time in silence and quiet to be renewed?  Wouldn’t your Partner, your children or your co-workers like to experience a kinder, gentler you?

Like A Duck – Detachment II July 24, 2008

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I’d like to go back to the image of the duck and detaching from what other people say or how they react or behave around me.  The goal of detachment may not be to change my circumstances, but to change my thinking, my insides, so that I can remain relatively peaceful and in a positive frame of mind, no matter what is happening around me.  That being said, there are certainly some circumstances that are abusive from which one should remove oneself.

If anyone has been to Al-Anon you will know that, contrary to what people may think, it is not so much about how to change the alcoholic, as it is how to change one’s self and how one reacts to the alcoholic.  It’s learning how to deal with things as they are and practicing different ways of reacting and responding so that one can have some semblance of peace in the midst of the chaos.  It’s about removing one’s self from the “game,” the drama of the addiction.  It’s about detachment and the ability to begin living peacefully and with some semblance of joy.

This morning after my meditation I read a bit more of Eckhart Tolle’s book The Power of Now:  A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment.  In the second chapter entitled “Consciousness:  The Way Out of Pain,” Tolle says that most of the pain that we experience in life is self created.  “The pain that you create now is always some form of non acceptance, some form of unconscious resistance to what is. (p.33)   Detachment comes when I am able to tap that centered place within myself, accept what is now and choose not to let it ruin my day.  Yes, I may be upset by various circumstances, but I can choose not to let it ruin my day.  It is what it is.  And I am what I am.  Can I live in the  peace of  eternity right now, despite what is happening around me?  Can I be like a duck and allow things to slide off me, without affecting the core of peace at the center of my being?

“Cats” and the “War On Terror” July 14, 2008

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Last night, on a spur of the moment, I went to see a local production of Andrew Lloyd Weber’s musical “Cats.” It was a great performance. I was amazed at the talent of these young people, most of whom were still in High School and College. It seems that people either love the show or hate it, finding it confusing and boring. I am one who likes it and gets into the layers of symbolism in the show.

The central symbol in the show is Grizabella the glamour cat. She is old, used up and unwanted by the rest of the group. Her days in the spotlight are long over and one suspects that her life and reputation has not been the best since then. She appears at various times throughout the show and is always shunned by the other cats. In the end she sings the central and now famous tune in the show “Memory.” At the end of the song, alone, sad and afraid she screams: “Touch me! It’s so easy to leave me all alone with the memory of my days in the sun. If you touch me you’ll understand what happiness is! Look! A New day has begun!” It is indeed a tear jerking moment to see the other cats slowly approach her and touch her. When they touch her it’s as if they become energized and filled with life. Having shunned her throughout the show, now they surround her and celebrate as she is the unlikely one chosen to be reborn into a new life.

The symbol of Grizabella and what happens to her speaks to me on a variety of levels. Of course, as a gay man, I have known and continue to know what it feels like to be shunned, laughed at and kept in the shadows of society. What struck me last night was Grizabella as a symbol of peacemaking.

In touching and not shunning the ills of the world, peace and happiness are achieved. It’s unfortunate that many feel that the so called “war on terror” is to be fought through bombs and armies and guns. This will only serve to prolong and intensify it. However, if we touch the ills of the world, peace will ensue. Some time ago, I watched a documentary in which a retired US Army General was interviewed. He said that, after being in Iraq he came to realize that the “war on terror” is not fought with guns, but by helping impoverished people. He said that many people are easily recruited by Al-Qaida because they give them money and an ideology of overthrowing the evil West who has used and abused them. He described an instance in Africa where the US Army successfully defeated Al-Qaida. Do you know how they won the war in that area? They dug a well for the people and provided water, which began to change their lives for the better. The people gradually no longer needed Al-Qaida and they drove them away. This General said it struck him that the simple digging of a well is what won this little “war.” He went on to say that the “war on terror” is to be won, not with guns and bombs, but by providing schools, clinics and basic services.

When I touch and help those who are alone, those who feel shunned or used, those who are poor and even those who have hurt and shunned me, then I understand more deeply what happiness and peace are. When I am no longer ruled by concern for protecting my own time or resources then I will know what freedom and happiness are. When I am no longer ruled by my resentments and can touch, and not react to one who has hurt me, then the energy of peace begins to break the cycle of conflict.

Calm in the Storm July 1, 2008

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Matthew 8: 23-27

In this story Jesus remains calmly asleep in the midst of a large storm that is almost sinking the boat he is on. He says to his frightened disciples: “Where is your courage? How little faith you have!”

How easy it is for us to get buffeted by the storms that come at us in life! How easy it is for us to get upset when a personal storm comes upon us or at the stormy and very uncertain state of affairs in our world! Most of the time in the midst of such storms, instead of sleeping calmly, we find it hard to sleep! Instead of getting swept up in the frenzy of the storm, I need to take some time to focus my thoughts away from what is so negative and bothersome, to a positive solution or outcome, aka, “faith.” Unfortunately, I oftentimes think that such “positive thinking” is just hokey!

Recently I buried the wife of a guy I know. He is known in the community as an eternal optimist, always looking at the bright side of things and never on the negative. Even in his wife’s dying he remained optimistic as he firmly believed she was headed to a better place. He seems to be getting on with life as he has in the past, maintaining a vibrant smile and a good word for those he meets in everyday life. I think he is able to handle this event in his life precisely because, in the past, on a daily basis, he has chosen to look at what is positive in life. He refuses to concentrate on the negative. And this behavior, which is now a deep rooted habit, is the source of calm energy in the midst of the storms of his life.

In the midst of whatever storm is going on in my life or the world, can I shift my focus of attention to what is positive?

 

 

Getting Revenge!! June 16, 2008

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When we are hurt our natural response is to want revenge, to hurt the other person. Does that really get us anywhere?

“You have heard it say an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth. What I say to you is: offer no resistance to injury.” (See Matthew 5: 38-42) Absurd hugh?? Not really. People like Ghandi and Martin Luther King Jr. and organizations like Soul Force know the truth of such non-resistance. It takes a lot of strength not to resist injury. Does this mean we allow ourselves to be abused by others and walked all over? No! We fight the injustice and we seek to right the wrong. We place before others the reality of their injustice and hurt. But we do it non-violently. When Martin Luther King Jr. marched, he did so non-violently and he called his followers to “resist no injury.” It took great courage because many WERE injured and he ultimately was killed. But such action displayed for the people in bold relief how wrong prejudice is and, in the end, the wheels of righting many wrongs were set in motion.

Sometimes we are hurt by another very deeply. Our instinctual reaction is to hurt the other person back in some way. It takes great courage, character and strength not to hurt the other, but to simply place before them, in a non-violent, non emotionally reactive way, the injustice that has been done. Perhaps this will change the person in some way and they may realize what they have done. And perhaps it won’t change them at all. But, even then, if we respond in a non-violent way, we will at least walk away with our integrity and self worth in tact.

Making Dreams Reality June 5, 2008

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As I write this it is the 40th anniversary of Robert Kennedy’s assassination. His time and ours are remarkably similar. One thing he said which strikes home to me is this: “I dream dreams that never were and say, . . . ‘Why not?’”

Dreamers can be frustrated when others say “why?” But dreamers keep dreaming and working to make the dream a reality. Who would have thought back in Robert’s day, when the struggle for civil rights was just emerging, that 40 years later – almost to the day of Robert’s assassination – an African American would take the Democratic nomination for President of the United States? I’m sure the people who spoke eloquently, who wrote, who inspired multitudes in those days; the people who fought and died, who were beaten and arrested and held down – I’m sure they never imagined that this day would come. But a dream was dreamed and one day somebody said: “Why not?” And things changed.

I have a dream when gay people can be looked upon as equal in God’s sight and when our love can be celebrated as sacred as anyone else’s. I have a dream of the world coming together in peace and when people no longer see themselves as citizens of this or that country, but citizens of the earth. I have a dream when people no longer say “God bless America,” but “God bless the World!” It strikes me that there are many players in making a dream reality. We need the people out front. We need the speakers. We need the writers. And we need those people who work to change perceptions just one person at a time. And it frightens me to admit that we need great courage, the courage to be yelled at, beaten, killed and arrested. I am not sure I have such courage.

No matter who we are, we all have dreams. What is your dream? What is the vision that you have for yourself, for others and the world? Do you think it’s crazy? Do others? Instead of just dreaming, perhaps we should say “Why not?” And then take a step to making the vision a reality!