John 21: 15-19
“Simon, son of John, do you love me? . . . Feed my lambs. . . . Tend my sheep. . . . Feed my sheep.”
Love, especially romantic love, is a word sometimes overused and hollow. It points more to what I’m feeling and getting than what I’m doing and giving. Ultimately love is about action. It is about putting my own concerns to the side for the need of another. If I say that I love someone, but do not back it up with action, it is not love. Love’s action, love’s work begins when the feeling ends.
I ran into an old boyfriend of mine online last night for a brief moment. I loved him very much, . . . with all my heart; but he had not learned the truth that love is ultimately about selfless action. For him the fact that over time he began to “feel” love less and to “feel” less sexually charged in the relationship meant that the relationship was over. In reality, it is quite normal over time to “feel” love less and to “feel” less sexually charged in a relationship, . . . But that’s where the real loving begins! And anyone in a successful relationship knows how “sexy” self giving love can be to give and receive!
Love is about the ability to give of myself freely, not expecting return. It is about living in a consciousness of abundance, not fearing the giving of my time or my resources because I know that I will be taken care of. It is about living in a consciousness that when I give of myself I am not somehow depleted or loosing something, so much as I am adding to the character of who I am as a person. It is about being like the Source of all that is, eternally giving, unending in love and abundance – even when I don’t “feel” like it.
True love is also about balancing giving with self care. Otherwise, my love and care for a person can become co-dependency and not real love.
Do you love someone? Do you hold deep care for others in the world? What’s something we can do today to put that love into action?